The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health

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For the past three and a half years, I have been writing and publishing my second book, entitled “The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health”.

We are not angry people who fight all the time and criticize others; that is not who we are. We are not the people who work ourselves to the bone to prove ourselves to others; that is not who we are. We are not constant complainers who can’t get anything to go the way we want it to in our lives; that is not who we are. We really are just peaceful, loving and happy individuals.

What makes us continue struggling? Why don’t we surrender? A part of us feels we deserve to struggle; that is the only reason. It is always fear that lies behind those feelings of not deserving. We are afraid of what will happen if we surrender. We are afraid that if we surrender, we can’t prove ourselves to others. We are afraid that if we don’t accomplish what we are trying to accomplish, we are a failure or we will be rejected or ridiculed by others or there will be repercussions with which we cannot live. Or maybe we see the good in the person we are struggling with in a relationship but they don’t see the good in themselves. Ironically, if we saw the good in ourselves, we would know that we deserve more for ourselves. We need to look carefully at the beliefs, habits, perceptions, judgments and excuses that we are desperately holding onto that keep us in our unhealthy, repetitive patterns. There can be any number of obvious reasons to continue the struggle, but we can only face our biggest fears once we come to love ourselves enough. That is the only time we really know we do not deserve to struggle anymore and the world truly can be a peaceful place.

In my book, you will learn why our parents raised us the way they did, what happened to us, including the unhealthy patterns we adopted, and how our childhoods affected us as adults (Chapter One). You will read about various sources of emotional education; our physical bodies, specifically our health challenges and cravings, are road maps pointing us in the exact direction we need to go to understand where we need to heal emotionally (Chapter Two). You will gain an understanding of why we remain victims and how to reframe your childhood story, no matter what has happened to you, and take responsibility for yourself. You will learn to identify, understand, feel and express your emotions and convert your negative, self-defeating beliefs into positive, self-affirming beliefs that improve every aspect of your life (Chapter Three). You will be provided with all the tools that you need to release your pain and heal within. You will gain the most comprehensive understanding of what forgiveness is and learn every nuance of what is involved in forgiving others, as well as yourself (Chapter Four).

The longest chapter of the book tells you exactly what you need to know about parenting yourself by coming to know and love yourself. It also explains how to know when you don’t love yourself, what it’s like when you are coming to love yourself and what it means to truly love yourself. I can assure you that the joy of self-discovery will be one of your greatest (Chapter Five).

Relationships are our biggest catalyst for emotional healing. Learn how to improve every relationship you have by reading the ten lengthy explanations for understanding and transcending the differences that exist between ourselves and others (Chapter Six). Discover how to prevent yourself from passing your negative patterns onto your children and understand your children like never before, as well as the lessons you can learn from them (Chapter Seven). Also, discover how to understand and support them best so that they handle challenges with ease and reach their maximum potential on this earth (Chapter Eight). Most importantly, you will find out how to help them come to love themselves (Chapter Nine). And don’t think that you need to do all of this alone! There are all sorts of practitioners who want to help you heal. Read about how various therapies will assist you in your healing (Chapter Ten).

By reading my book, you will have the tools to improve your emotional health and happiness for life and be fully equipped to do the same for your children. I can hardly wait for you to start reading!

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Meredith

Minimizing and Eliminating Allergies Part 3 of 3

The Resourceful Mother's Secrets to Healthy Kids

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In this blog series on Food Allergies, you learned to discern the difference between food sensitivities and allergies as well as some of the symptoms or conditions caused by adverse reactions to foods (part 1), and how to detect the culprit foods and which foods present the most common challenges in babies (part 2).  In this last post of the series, you will learn what to do to minimize and eliminate food sensitivities and allergies. All of this information is covered in more detail in my first book “The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Healthy Kids.

All adverse reactions to foods cause inflammation in the body. Food sensitivities and allergies cause the gut lining to be inflamed, which subsequently makes it hard for vitamins and minerals to be properly absorbed. Inflammation is behind all illness. I want to briefly discuss the link between inflammation and illness, by using gluten as an example. A recently written book, “Grain Brain” by David Perlmutter, MD does an excellent job of explaining that gluten is behind almost every inflammatory condition, especially those involving the brain. “Wheat Belly” by Dr. William Davis discusses how gluten causes obesity, one of the conditions caused by inflammation. Many well-known authors have shown the link between gluten and arthritis, M.S., Lupus and other diseases! Continue reading

Allergies/Sensitivities Part 2 – How to Recognize Allergy Symptoms in Babies

allergies in babiesIn my last blog post, we talked about the difference between food allergies and food sensitivities and why it is crucial to find out if your child is affected. In this 2nd of 3 posts, we’ll talk about how to recognize allergy symptoms in babies.

Dr. Doris Rapp, a guest on Oprah’s show, has been a pediatric allergist since 1960. She has done incredible research on food sensitivities and allergies affecting children and has written numerous books on the subject. Her observations of reactions to foods i.e. symptoms, starting in the womb, are quite fascinating.
Don’t we often wonder why our babies kick us or have the hiccups when in the womb? And why do our babies become agitated shortly after we feed them? Dr. Rapp says “I have known unborn babies who would hiccup or kick hard enough in the womb to bruise the mother. These mothers should think of what they ate half an hour before the baby started to act this way. If they do, they may be able to figure out what is bothering the baby down in the uterus. One woman found that every time she ate a cannoli her baby began to kick her. The baby was having a prenatal allergic reaction and was attempting to tell the mother not to eat cannolis. The same thing might happen after the baby is born. If a baby is totally breast-feeding and that baby becomes agitated after feeding, that mother should ask herself what she ate the previous meal. The food can come through the breast milk and make the baby sick.” Good Food, Good Mood quotes Dr. Rapp on page 13.

Babies cannot be allergic to breast milk but they can certainly be allergic to the food that that mother has eaten and passed through her breast milk. My daughter, Taylor, had projectile vomiting the first time I consumed dairy and then breast-fed her. What are other symptoms in babies that can be caused by allergies?

  • Colic
  • Excessive drooling
  • Spit-up
  • Diarrhea/Constipation
  • Diaper rashes or any skin rashes
  • Chronic runny rose
  • Multiple ear infections
  • Poor sleeping
  • Frequent coughing/colds
  • Pale face
  • Excessive thirst

What are the most common foods to which babies react adversely?

  • Dairy
  • Wheat
  • Sugar
  • Soy
  • Chocolate
  • Chemicals i.e. chlorine, food dye, additives, etc.
  • Citrus
  • Tree nuts
  • Peanuts
  • Caffeine
  • Tomatoes
  • Strawberries

But a baby can react adversely to any food. Rice cereal is becoming a common allergen for many of today’s babies. We are also seeing babies react to sweet potatoes and carrots, presumably due to the high sugar content in these foods. No food is exempt from causing a reaction.

What is the most accurate way to determine the food(s) to which your child is reacting? Keeping a food and symptom journal over an extended period of time is the ONLY fool-proof method for determining your baby’s culprit food(s). This involves recording what your baby has consumed on their own or in your breast milk and any resulting symptoms within 24 hours of consumption. The journal will show the patterns e.g. every time he has pureed strawberries, he gets a rash on his cheeks.

Every time your baby is exposed to a food that they don’t agree with, they cannot properly absorb the vitamins and minerals from that food and symptoms result. Please do all that you can to determine and avoid your baby’s culprit food(s)! I am always here to help you if you need me!

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Meredith

Food Allergies vs Food Sensitivities Part 1 of 3

asthma and food allergiesWhat is the difference between food allergies and food sensitivities and why is it crucial to find out if your child is affected?

When your child is not sleeping soundly, behaving well, concentrating in school, or is experiencing colic, constipation, eczema, recurrent ear infections or asthma, your child’s body is signalling to you that aspects of his or her environment are not agreeing with him or her; they may have a food sensitivity or allergy. The earlier you can uncover the culprit food or foods, the better. Our bodies will keep communicating with us whether we listen or not. An ignored reaction to a food becomes a “symptom” and an ignored symptom becomes more ignored symptoms and more ignored symptoms turn into conditions and then, often, in adulthood, conditions turn into disease. Continue reading

Teaching Our Child to Express their ‘Negative’ Emotions

The Resourceful MotherThe first step in taking responsibility for ourselves and coming to know and love ourselves, is identifying, understanding, feeling and expressing our ‘negative’ emotions; self-esteem is based on the acceptance of all thoughts and feelings as one’s own. If we want our child to take responsibility for themselves and come to know and love themselves, we need to help them identify, understand, feel and express their emotions in the same way that we accomplish this task. In this way, they will learn to see feelings as information. As we learn to balance our own emotions, we are better able to show our child how to balance their emotions. It is through the sharing of emotions that we build our connection with our child and genuinely come to know them.

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Zinc – 10 Functions, 25 Signs of Deficiency & Increasing Your Stores

zinc deficiencyLike essential fatty acids and magnesium, zinc is one of the top deficiencies in today’s children. Zinc is probably involved in more body functions than any other mineral. This post outlines 10 functions of zinc, 25 signs of deficiency and what to do if you think you or your child are deficient.

Zinc is crucial for:

  • Thinking (Have you heard the expression “No zinc, no think”?)
  • The proper functioning of more than 100 enzymes
  • Normal growth and development
  • Body tissue health
  • The prevention of cavities
  • Proper sexual development and function
  • The immune system
  • The detoxification of chemicals and metabolic irritants
  • Carbohydrate metabolism
  • The body’s healing process i.e. wound healing

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Childrens’ Fevers Have An Important Purpose & Should Not Be Suppressed

children with feverAs parents, many of us tend to panic when our child has a fever, worrying that our child might not recover or might end up suffering from a seizure. Many of us give our child Tylenol or Advil without realizing that fevers have an important purpose and suppressing them with these medications can actually cause more harm than good. How does the body benefit from having a fever?

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The Importance of Speaking Our Truth

Speaking our truthThere comes a time in every person’s life when we need to make a decision – a decision to stand up for who we are; a decision to stand up and say what we believe in; a decision to expose secrets about ourselves that we have kept hidden; a decision to speak our truth. That time has come for me.

Many of you know that my thyroid has not worked properly for over a decade. It’s not a horrible situation and I take the lowest possible dose of natural thyroid but as long as I have had that imbalance, I have known that I have needed to speak my truth – there is always an emotional connection to our physical challenges. Please visit these prior blog posts on the subject; The Emotional Connection to Physical Illness and Emotional Causes of Physical Ailments.

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Magnesium – The Second Largest Mineral Deficiency

Products containing magnesiumMagnesium is second largest mineral deficiency in adults and children alike, after Essential Fatty Acids. It is estimated that 80 percent of the population is deficient in magnesium. In one of my prior posts, I told you that my hair analysis results showed that I had some vitamin and mineral deficiencies. My largest deficiency was Magnesium and second was Calcium. A week ago, I found an ionic version of Cal/Mag – ionic minerals are the most easily and well absorbed of all forms of minerals. The results of taking this supplement have been profound. Continue reading

Causes and Help for Combatting Stress in Your Child

stressed kidsHere are some of the causes of stress, the impact of stress on the body, how to know if your child is stressed and a few unique ideas for combating stress. Only you, the parent, can help your child combat their stress.

Some of the Causes of Stress

Children certainly feel stress and anxiety. Many children are actually more sensitive to things being out of balance than are adults. Over-scheduling, working parents, social media and peer pressure, combined with a general lack of exercise are only some of the causes of this stress. High consumption of white sugar, white flour products and other refined foods also stress the body. If your child is eating foods to which they are sensitive, this also increases the stress levels in their body.

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