Stress – Its Underlying Cause

what causes stressStress is the underlying cause behind much of the illness we experience. Irritable Bowel Syndrome is a perfect example of a stress-induced illness. But what is the root cause of stress? When we experience stress, we are resisting the flow of life. Stress is not caused by the circumstances of our lives but by our reaction to the choices we have made that result in the circumstances of our lives.

When the circumstances of our lives or people don’t meet our approval, we focus our energy on trying to control or change our external circumstances or the people in our lives. Or we bend over backwards to please the people in our lives. Why do we give our power away in this way?
We expend a massive amount of energy trying to change our external circumstances or other people. We also expend a massive amount of energy trying to conceal the pain of our past. Anything we want to change or we’re afraid of or angry about or refuse to accept will keep us attached to our past and the beliefs or expectations that stemmed from our past. Resisting what is will never make it disappear.

How do we recognize our stress?
We know we are resisting i.e. experiencing stress when we experience physical manifestations such as a stiff neck, clenched jaw, headache, stomach ache, sighing and tightness in the chest, just to give a few examples. Once we recognize where our resistance or stress is anchoring in our body, we are able to identify it and the triggers more easily.

The root cause of all stress
The root cause of all stress is a lack of love and belief in ourselves. These feelings generate fear …fear of saying “no”, fear of setting boundaries with others, fear of putting our own needs first, fear of not having the approval of others, fear that we cannot survive without a certain job or partner….

What do we need to do to let go of our stress?
“The crucial times to let go are when you feel the strongest urge not to” (The Path to Love by Deepak Chopra page 170).

Once we accept that this is the way it is going to be with this job or this situation or this person or this quality about ourselves that we don’t like, we can stop resisting and let things flow effortlessly. This concept is referred to as “surrendering.” Our ego mistakes surrendering for failure and the end of power, but when we surrender, we transcend our ego and let go of control of circumstances over which we really never had any control anyway. We can stop forcing things and simply allow things to happen. We are most powerful when we are working with life rather than against it. Surrendering is stopping ourselves from doing the things that make us miserable, crazy or self-hating. When we stop abusing ourselves, love and healing can move in. This is when we can determine what we need to do to create joy in our lives.

What are you going to do differently in your life to ensure you experience the most joy in your life this holiday season?

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6 Ways to Protect your Family from Viruses, including Ebola

ebola virusPretty much every year, the media scares the majority of us with news of the latest virus that is making individuals sick or worse. Viral infections that have hit the world in recent years include H1N1, West Nile Virus, Norwalk Virus, SARS (Severe Acute Respiratory Syndrome) and Ebola, amongst others. Here are 6 areas of our lives to focus on if we want to protect our families and make them virus resistant and the healthiest possible: Continue reading

4 Dietary Causes and Other Help for Sleep Challenges

kids trouble sleepingIf babies awake a few times a night, that’s normal. However, if babies are up every few minutes or every hour, you may have a sleep challenge on your hands. When it comes to children, it is ideal for them to sleep for at least 8 hours in a row. If a child awakes and feels rested within 5-10 minutes, they are getting enough sleep. When a child is tired, nothing is easy. Here are 5 possible repercussions of insufficient sleep including dietary causes:

  • The challenge of feeling tired.
  • A compromised immune system, increasing susceptibility to food sensitivities and sickness.
  • Diminished mental function, increasing their risk of harmful accidents
  • An increased focus on the negatives rather than the positives
  • Appetite changes (a child might eat more to gain energy or eat less because they are too tired)

Here are 4 dietary causes of sleep challenges: Continue reading

11 Ways to Know If Your Child Is Emotionally Healthy

Kid's Life Coach OntarioIt is difficult to gauge one’s level of emotional health when most of us don’t even know what emotional health is. My intention is to show you how to know if your child is emotionally healthy, to explain what causes a child to be unhealthy emotionally and what you can do about it when they are not. We know our child is emotionally healthy by: Continue reading

Part 2 – The Value and Function of Each Vitamin and Mineral

Minerals needed by the bodyIn part 1 of this 2 part series, I promised you that I would summarize the value and function of each mineral, so that is exactly what I am going to do. By reading over these descriptions, you can form ideas as to which ones you or your child might be deficient in and which ones you might have a sufficient amount of.

Calcium is necessary for: Continue reading

The Value and Function of Each Vitamin and Mineral – Part 1

pediatric nutritionist York RegionOver the past few months that I have been observing my clients’ lab work, I have noticed that the majority of us (both adults and children) are vitamin and mineral deficient. Vitamins and minerals are not usually produced by the body but need to be obtained from food or supplements. I felt it would be helpful to provide you with a brief synopsis of the value and function of each vitamin and mineral in the body. This will be a 2 part series.

Vitamin A

  • Prevents skin challenges, such as acne, wrinkling and age spots.
  • Strengthens the immune system, protecting the body from colds, flus and infections to kidney, bladder, and lungs.
  • Maintains and repairs the mucus membranes in the lungs, throat, eyes and other areas.

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The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health

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For the past three and a half years, I have been writing and publishing my second book, entitled “The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health”.

We are not angry people who fight all the time and criticize others; that is not who we are. We are not the people who work ourselves to the bone to prove ourselves to others; that is not who we are. We are not constant complainers who can’t get anything to go the way we want it to in our lives; that is not who we are. We really are just peaceful, loving and happy individuals. Continue reading

Minimizing and Eliminating Allergies Part 3 of 3

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In this blog series on Food Allergies, you learned to discern the difference between food sensitivities and allergies as well as some of the symptoms or conditions caused by adverse reactions to foods (part 1), and how to detect the culprit foods and which foods present the most common challenges in babies (part 2).  In this last post of the series, you will learn what to do to minimize and eliminate food sensitivities and allergies. All of this information is covered in more detail in my first book “The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Healthy Kids.

All adverse reactions to foods cause inflammation in the body. Food sensitivities and allergies cause the gut lining to be inflamed, which subsequently makes it hard for vitamins and minerals to be properly absorbed. Inflammation is behind all illness. I want to briefly discuss the link between inflammation and illness, by using gluten as an example. A recently written book, “Grain Brain” by David Perlmutter, MD does an excellent job of explaining that gluten is behind almost every inflammatory condition, especially those involving the brain. “Wheat Belly” by Dr. William Davis discusses how gluten causes obesity, one of the conditions caused by inflammation. Many well-known authors have shown the link between gluten and arthritis, M.S., Lupus and other diseases! Continue reading

Allergies/Sensitivities Part 2 – How to Recognize Allergy Symptoms in Babies

allergies in babiesIn my last blog post, we talked about the difference between food allergies and food sensitivities and why it is crucial to find out if your child is affected. In this 2nd of 3 posts, we’ll talk about how to recognize allergy symptoms in babies.

Dr. Doris Rapp, a guest on Oprah’s show, has been a pediatric allergist since 1960. She has done incredible research on food sensitivities and allergies affecting children and has written numerous books on the subject. Her observations of reactions to foods i.e. symptoms, starting in the womb, are quite fascinating.
Don’t we often wonder why our babies kick us or have the hiccups when in the womb? And why do our babies become agitated shortly after we feed them? Dr. Rapp says “I have known unborn babies who would hiccup or kick hard enough in the womb to bruise the mother. These mothers should think of what they ate half an hour before the baby started to act this way. If they do, they may be able to figure out what is bothering the baby down in the uterus. One woman found that every time she ate a cannoli her baby began to kick her. The baby was having a prenatal allergic reaction and was attempting to tell the mother not to eat cannolis. The same thing might happen after the baby is born. If a baby is totally breast-feeding and that baby becomes agitated after feeding, that mother should ask herself what she ate the previous meal. The food can come through the breast milk and make the baby sick.” Good Food, Good Mood quotes Dr. Rapp on page 13.

Babies cannot be allergic to breast milk but they can certainly be allergic to the food that that mother has eaten and passed through her breast milk. My daughter, Taylor, had projectile vomiting the first time I consumed dairy and then breast-fed her. What are other symptoms in babies that can be caused by allergies?

  • Colic
  • Excessive drooling
  • Spit-up
  • Diarrhea/Constipation
  • Diaper rashes or any skin rashes
  • Chronic runny rose
  • Multiple ear infections
  • Poor sleeping
  • Frequent coughing/colds
  • Pale face
  • Excessive thirst

What are the most common foods to which babies react adversely?

  • Dairy
  • Wheat
  • Sugar
  • Soy
  • Chocolate
  • Chemicals i.e. chlorine, food dye, additives, etc.
  • Citrus
  • Tree nuts
  • Peanuts
  • Caffeine
  • Tomatoes
  • Strawberries

But a baby can react adversely to any food. Rice cereal is becoming a common allergen for many of today’s babies. We are also seeing babies react to sweet potatoes and carrots, presumably due to the high sugar content in these foods. No food is exempt from causing a reaction.

What is the most accurate way to determine the food(s) to which your child is reacting? Keeping a food and symptom journal over an extended period of time is the ONLY fool-proof method for determining your baby’s culprit food(s). This involves recording what your baby has consumed on their own or in your breast milk and any resulting symptoms within 24 hours of consumption. The journal will show the patterns e.g. every time he has pureed strawberries, he gets a rash on his cheeks.

Every time your baby is exposed to a food that they don’t agree with, they cannot properly absorb the vitamins and minerals from that food and symptoms result. Please do all that you can to determine and avoid your baby’s culprit food(s)! I am always here to help you if you need me!

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Food Allergies vs Food Sensitivities Part 1 of 3

asthma and food allergiesWhat is the difference between food allergies and food sensitivities and why is it crucial to find out if your child is affected?

When your child is not sleeping soundly, behaving well, concentrating in school, or is experiencing colic, constipation, eczema, recurrent ear infections or asthma, your child’s body is signalling to you that aspects of his or her environment are not agreeing with him or her; they may have a food sensitivity or allergy. The earlier you can uncover the culprit food or foods, the better. Our bodies will keep communicating with us whether we listen or not. An ignored reaction to a food becomes a “symptom” and an ignored symptom becomes more ignored symptoms and more ignored symptoms turn into conditions and then, often, in adulthood, conditions turn into disease. Continue reading