The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health

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For the past three and a half years, I have been writing and publishing my second book, entitled “The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health”.

We are not angry people who fight all the time and criticize others; that is not who we are. We are not the people who work ourselves to the bone to prove ourselves to others; that is not who we are. We are not constant complainers who can’t get anything to go the way we want it to in our lives; that is not who we are. We really are just peaceful, loving and happy individuals.

What makes us continue struggling? Why don’t we surrender? A part of us feels we deserve to struggle; that is the only reason. It is always fear that lies behind those feelings of not deserving. We are afraid of what will happen if we surrender. We are afraid that if we surrender, we can’t prove ourselves to others. We are afraid that if we don’t accomplish what we are trying to accomplish, we are a failure or we will be rejected or ridiculed by others or there will be repercussions with which we cannot live. Or maybe we see the good in the person we are struggling with in a relationship but they don’t see the good in themselves. Ironically, if we saw the good in ourselves, we would know that we deserve more for ourselves. We need to look carefully at the beliefs, habits, perceptions, judgments and excuses that we are desperately holding onto that keep us in our unhealthy, repetitive patterns. There can be any number of obvious reasons to continue the struggle, but we can only face our biggest fears once we come to love ourselves enough. That is the only time we really know we do not deserve to struggle anymore and the world truly can be a peaceful place.

In my book, you will learn why our parents raised us the way they did, what happened to us, including the unhealthy patterns we adopted, and how our childhoods affected us as adults (Chapter One). You will read about various sources of emotional education; our physical bodies, specifically our health challenges and cravings, are road maps pointing us in the exact direction we need to go to understand where we need to heal emotionally (Chapter Two). You will gain an understanding of why we remain victims and how to reframe your childhood story, no matter what has happened to you, and take responsibility for yourself. You will learn to identify, understand, feel and express your emotions and convert your negative, self-defeating beliefs into positive, self-affirming beliefs that improve every aspect of your life (Chapter Three). You will be provided with all the tools that you need to release your pain and heal within. You will gain the most comprehensive understanding of what forgiveness is and learn every nuance of what is involved in forgiving others, as well as yourself (Chapter Four).

The longest chapter of the book tells you exactly what you need to know about parenting yourself by coming to know and love yourself. It also explains how to know when you don’t love yourself, what it’s like when you are coming to love yourself and what it means to truly love yourself. I can assure you that the joy of self-discovery will be one of your greatest (Chapter Five).

Relationships are our biggest catalyst for emotional healing. Learn how to improve every relationship you have by reading the ten lengthy explanations for understanding and transcending the differences that exist between ourselves and others (Chapter Six). Discover how to prevent yourself from passing your negative patterns onto your children and understand your children like never before, as well as the lessons you can learn from them (Chapter Seven). Also, discover how to understand and support them best so that they handle challenges with ease and reach their maximum potential on this earth (Chapter Eight). Most importantly, you will find out how to help them come to love themselves (Chapter Nine). And don’t think that you need to do all of this alone! There are all sorts of practitioners who want to help you heal. Read about how various therapies will assist you in your healing (Chapter Ten).

By reading my book, you will have the tools to improve your emotional health and happiness for life and be fully equipped to do the same for your children. I can hardly wait for you to start reading!

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Meredith

Minimizing and Eliminating Allergies Part 3 of 3

The Resourceful Mother's Secrets to Healthy Kids

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In this blog series on Food Allergies, you learned to discern the difference between food sensitivities and allergies as well as some of the symptoms or conditions caused by adverse reactions to foods (part 1), and how to detect the culprit foods and which foods present the most common challenges in babies (part 2).  In this last post of the series, you will learn what to do to minimize and eliminate food sensitivities and allergies. All of this information is covered in more detail in my first book “The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Healthy Kids.

All adverse reactions to foods cause inflammation in the body. Food sensitivities and allergies cause the gut lining to be inflamed, which subsequently makes it hard for vitamins and minerals to be properly absorbed. Inflammation is behind all illness. I want to briefly discuss the link between inflammation and illness, by using gluten as an example. A recently written book, “Grain Brain” by David Perlmutter, MD does an excellent job of explaining that gluten is behind almost every inflammatory condition, especially those involving the brain. “Wheat Belly” by Dr. William Davis discusses how gluten causes obesity, one of the conditions caused by inflammation. Many well-known authors have shown the link between gluten and arthritis, M.S., Lupus and other diseases! Continue reading

The Importance of Speaking Our Truth

Speaking our truthThere comes a time in every person’s life when we need to make a decision – a decision to stand up for who we are; a decision to stand up and say what we believe in; a decision to expose secrets about ourselves that we have kept hidden; a decision to speak our truth. That time has come for me.

Many of you know that my thyroid has not worked properly for over a decade. It’s not a horrible situation and I take the lowest possible dose of natural thyroid but as long as I have had that imbalance, I have known that I have needed to speak my truth – there is always an emotional connection to our physical challenges. Please visit these prior blog posts on the subject; The Emotional Connection to Physical Illness and Emotional Causes of Physical Ailments.

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Magnesium – The Second Largest Mineral Deficiency

Products containing magnesiumMagnesium is second largest mineral deficiency in adults and children alike, after Essential Fatty Acids. It is estimated that 80 percent of the population is deficient in magnesium. In one of my prior posts, I told you that my hair analysis results showed that I had some vitamin and mineral deficiencies. My largest deficiency was Magnesium and second was Calcium. A week ago, I found an ionic version of Cal/Mag – ionic minerals are the most easily and well absorbed of all forms of minerals. The results of taking this supplement have been profound. Continue reading

Hair Mineral Analysis – Learn About Your Underlying Health Challenges

hair mineral analysisHair mineral analysis is one of the best kept secrets to attaining better health and it has been performed by laboratories for decades.  Some laboratories are more accurate than others and certain technicians are more adept at interpreting the results than others.  The majority of health challenges are associated with mineral imbalances or toxic metal excesses; hair mineral analysis is a way to learn of our underlying health challenges.   I have recently learned of a lab that Dr. Zoltan Rona uses to help his clients.  Dr. Rona wrote the Foreword for my first book.  He is a medical doctor that implements natural solutions with incredible success; I have great respect for his knowledge and work, and recently for the lab with which he has partnered, called CanAlt Health Laboratories.

As hair grows, it forms a permanent record of the body’s nutritional deficiencies or excesses.  Hair mineral analysis is a screening test to measure the levels of up to 60 essential minerals and heavy metals.  With correct testing and interpretation, one can construct a complete metabolic profile of the human body.   High levels of toxic metals, for example, can inhibit the body’s ability to process and assimilate specific nutritional elements that are essential to good health.

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15 Factors that Affect Fertility

factors affecting fertilityInfertility is the inability of sexually active couples to conceive a baby after one year of unprotected sex.  Approximately 14% of couples are infertile and the percentage is climbing.  In a nutshell, our world is more toxic than ever before.  Nutrition affects all aspects of health, including fertility.  Please read on to learn about 15 factors that affect fertility; 5 that can negatively impact it, 5 factors that can increase it and 5 vitamins or minerals that can improve it!

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Our Children Are Our Mirrors

The Resourceful MotherNot only do children often look like their parents, they often end up being like their parents.  We can literally view our children as hand mirrors that reflect not only the messages and cues they receive from us but also, our thoughts and actions.

If we are still wounded (incomplete or hurt) from our childhood, we will wound our child, usually without being conscious of it.  If we were not accepted by our parents for who we are, we, in turn, might not accept or value our child for who they are.  If we are worried about being separated from our child, bedtime might be a nightly battleground for us or our child might be worried about starting school and leaving us.  If we are frequently angry, we might teach our child to be angry.  If we have an exaggerated sense of responsibility for our child and allow our mind to work overtime, our child might be busy, restless or unable to fall asleep quickly or sleep soundly.  Unfortunately, whatever we have not dealt with from our past, we pass onto our children.

Whatever character trait we don’t like in our child usually mirrors something we don’t like in ourselves.   Each time a mother sees her daughter lazing about the house, she finds herself getting really angry.  Telling her daughter that she is lazy is not going to incite a work ethic in her; in fact it will accomplish the exact opposite and the daughter will only resent her mother for not seeing the beauty inside her.  When the mother delves into her deeper feelings about this, she realizes that she has a tendency to be lazy and has set this example for her daughter.  The mother has a choice as to whether she accepts her laziness and thereby accepts that aspect of herself or whether she takes steps to change that aspect of herself so that her daughter doesn’t adopt this trait for life.  There are positive aspects of each seemingly negative trait.  The mother may come to the realization that her laziness is a good thing because relaxing in our society is under-rated!  As long as we are accomplishing things at other times of the day, being lazy for a few hours a day can be just what the body and mind require.  When we become less critical of ourselves, we become more supportive of our children.  But if this mother feels that her laziness is too much for her liking, she may decide to start living her life in a way in which she could never be described as lazy and will get one step closer to becoming the energetic, goal-achieving person she wants to become.

One of the biggest tasks in parenting is seeing things from a perspective that does not necessarily come easily to us.  If we can look at each challenge with our child as an opportunity to understand ourselves more than ever before and as potential for further growth, this helps us ease up on our children and prevents us from seeing things as “wrong.”  In fact, this is how we convert our “problem child” into our teacher!

If you love this blog, won’t you vote for us?  You’ll find the link in the sidebar to the right of this post. If you are reading this post via email, please click here to be taken to the website where you’ll find the vote box.  Just click on the box. This registers a vote for my blog. There is nothing more you need to do! It’s quite simple. Thank you for your support.

Would you like to connect? You can reach me via email or phone, leave a comment right here on the site, or click the connect tab at the bottom of the screen if you are reading this post on the website.

Until next time,

Meredith

Are Nutritional Supplements Harmful to our Health?

natural supplementsAttacks on the natural health industry are increasing and will continue to increase as more and more of us turn towards natural alternatives and away from drugs and chemicals.  The latest “news” was that nutritional supplements are ineffective at preventing disease and can actually be harmful to our health.  More times than not, it is the drug companies and their marketers that are putting out this negative propaganda on natural supplements.  And more times than not, these studies are not based on double-blind, placebo-controlled research.  Interestingly, drugs are the third leading cause of death yet no one has died from taking supplements.  Drugs also deplete the body of good bacteria, causing or contributing to over 200 symptoms, conditions and/or disease.

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Learning to Talk With Your Child Not at Them

happy parentingFar too large of a percentage of parents report not enjoying the job of parenting.  It is very difficult to find pleasure in parenting when our focus is on controlling our child and forcing them to obey the rules all the time.  When we are rigid and tense, our children feel unloved and become loaded with self-blame.  Their need to be accepted as they are goes unmet.  When our children live under the threat of criticism or punishment, their need to feel safe is not met.  When we open ourselves up to the possibilities of our relationship, trust our child and talk with our child not at them, our parenting experience blooms.  Cooperation from our child is fool proof and everyone’s needs are met.

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Vitamin-Infused Popsicles Help Girl with Autism

healthy popsiclesI was teaching pediatric nutrition at CSNN and one of my students shared an incredible story with our class about helping a girl with Autism.  It involved vitamin-infused popsicles. I asked him to share his story with you.

My name is Pedi Mirdamadi.  One of my clients is an 11 year old autistic girl.  Initially, what started off as an effort to help her lose weight has progressed into a loving bond and special relationship that I truly cherish.  Seeing this child on a regular basis allows me to see the effects of food on her behaviour.  Some days she is engaged with me the entire time and we can carry on a conversation.  Other days, she gets off track quite often.  I can see that what she eats is clearly affecting her behaviour; clear indications of food allergies and sensitivities.

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