A Letter to My Daughters This Mother’s Day

When I met the father of my girls, I told him that having children would be the most important thing I ever did with my life. This baffled him because I was such a corporate girl, at the time. Shortly after we were married, I even went so far as to tell him that I thought we should apply for adoption, in case we were never able to have children. That’s how important having children was to me.

Giving birth and raising my girls has been the greatest pleasure of my life. And having my girls led me to my calling. Because of what they taught me, I get to be a “mother” to many individuals, through my company “The Resourceful Mother”.

I am dedicating this blog post to my girls, Taylor and Paige. Oh boy, the tears have already started welling up in my eyes…

Dearest Taylor and Paige,

Your bodies taught me the value of eating healthily and we can see the results of doing so in all aspects of our lives. Your emotions have shown me the value of truly feeling, then encouraged me to learn how to process those emotions properly and, in turn, allowed us to always find the perspective we needed to heal from any situation. Your minds have challenged me to find greater wisdom, guiding us to learning unique information about this world. Your spirits caused me to probe deeper into what lies beyond that which we are able to see and, as a result, we know that we are never alone on this planet and that there are a multitude of beings that help us each and every day. Your hearts, open wide right from the start, pried mine wide open, which then allowed us to keep our hearts wide open, as we navigated the trials of being human.

I was not truly living until the two of you entered my life. I owe my energetic body, my deep joy, my unique wisdom, my deep connection to spirit and my great love and respect for myself and others to the two of you. And I now know that this is an opportunity that EVERY parent has when they give birth and raise a child.

We have spent almost 18 years learning from one another. This fall, you head off to university, Taylor. I don’t feel any pulls at my heart strings because I know I have done my job and you have done yours; I have full confidence that you have everything you need to venture forth in this world. And Paige, you will enter grade 11, and through your co-op, you will decide the direction you will take in venturing forth in this world. I have full confidence that you will make the right decision for you. Whether or not either one of you makes the large contribution to this world that you plan to make, our souls have evolved in the direction they were meant to go in.

I am infinitely grateful for the two of you. I thank you for the depth of our connection and for the profound joy and never-ending love that we experience. I thank you for giving me the family I always wanted so badly. Thank you for allowing me to celebrate the gift of YOU each Mother’s Day and every day of my life.

All my love and appreciation,

Mama

My Delight in Discovering Kiss Me Organics’ Organic Dandelion Root Tea

Kiss Me OrganicsAs a nutritionist, I am well aware of the nutritional value of herbal teas and drink them often to obtain the nutrients my body craves.  When I learned of Kiss Me Organics’ Dandelion Root Tea, I was absolutely amazed.

Here are the Benefits of Dandelion Root:

  1. Cleanses the liver and helps eliminate acidity and toxins from the body
  2. Contains a lot of Minerals, particularly iron, zinc, calcium and potassium
  3. Is loaded with Vitamins A, C, D and B complex (helpful for stress!)
  4. Is recognized as a great blood builder and purifier
  5. Supports healthy digestion and therefore helps the body absorb nutrients better
  6. Is a mild diuretic. Because potassium is often lost when using regular diuretics, dandelion root is a much better choice
  7. Lowers cholesterol. One study showed that dandelion root lowered the LDL and triglycerides in mice, while increasing HDL
  8. Contains organic sodium, which is needed when there is a deficiency of nutritive salts

And the tea is organic, meaning that there is even more nutrient value in this tea than non-organic forms, and there is no sugar or artificial flavouring. Plus, unlike other brands of Dandelion Root Tea, this one has RAW dandelion, meaning all the enzymes are intact.

And get this!  It contains hibiscus and cinnamon too!  Both of these foods regulate blood sugar.  When our blood sugar is stable, we concentrate better; our energy stays high and our moods remain stable.

As if that is not enough, the tea is truly delicious! Lots of health bloggers and celebrities are even drinking the tea, such as Jillian Michaels and Kim Kardashian.

The tea is easy to order.  Simply click on the link: www.kissmeorganics.com/dandelionhealth. To help kick-start your healthy drinking, there is a 10% discount and free shipping included if you order now!

Thanks to Kiss Me Organics, I have now made their Organic Dandelion Root Tea a regular indulgence in my life.  It is truly incredible to me that a tea can offer this much.    

Meredith Deasley, BA, RHN, RNCP, ACC is a registered Holistic Nutritionist and Certified Life Coach and owner of the company called The Resourceful Mother.  She has been dedicated to connecting families to health and happiness, since 2002.  She has authored two books, one on physical healing and one on emotional healing.  Her company www.theresourcefulmother.com is dedicated to finding the most pure and nutritious foods & supplements to recommend to families around the world.

Obesity Need Not Be an Epidemic

When is it about me? I was just speaking with a client this morning who stated that she needs to lose 100 pounds. Her hair analysis report shows that her thyroid is low, despite her doctor telling her it was normal (doctors’ tests have a huge normal range when it comes to the thyroid). She has all the symptoms of hypothyroidism, which seriously affects metabolism. Her liver also needs to be brought into balance to help level out her hormones. She told me that it saddens her so much when others just assume she ‘eats like a pig’ and she knows she doesn’t. I explained to her that when one has a low thyroid, the emotional connection is that they are often doing too much for others and not enough for themselves. The subconscious asks “When is it about me?” This is why so many mothers have low thyroid! And then they get judged for weight gain when they are simply doing too much for their families and not enough for themselves 🙁

Weight gain also occurs when a child or adult is not properly absorbing their vitamins and minerals – mal-absorption is rampant in North America. When we don’t properly absorb nutrients, we continually eat food, searching for the nutrients we so desperately need. This calls for the healing of the intestine so that it can function properly.

More and more, we are hearing that cleanses (e.g. candida, parasite) help individuals lose weight and keep weight off. There is a particular way and order to doing cleanses so that the body learns how to properly eliminate toxins and then shed weight. Having lots of filtered water also cleans the garbage out of our bodies.

FOODFood sensitivities and allergies can add piles of weight to a child’s or adult’s body. When we react adversely to a food, it causes inflammation or swelling in the body. The problematic foods are most often dairy, wheat and sugar i.e. the foods most of us eat regularly!

Vitamin and mineral deficiencies can decrease energy levels, preventing individuals from having the motivation to exercise and causing them to crave sugar. Lack of probiotics or essential fatty acids can contribute to the colon being sluggish. Vitamin C and Magnesium are natural laxatives! These are just a few examples of how having enough of certain vitamins and minerals can keep us slim.

Obesity - Causes and EffectsAnd then there is the emotional connection to obesity. When we are overweight, we are protecting ourselves from others or from situations in our lives where we don’t feel safe or accepted. We are rejecting parts of ourselves and running away from our negative feelings. We seek fulfillment.

So, you see, there are so many important aspects to look at when we want to lose weight. Maybe now, you can see why diets rarely work!! These physical and emotional contributors must be explored in helping children and adults alike become the healthiest possible.

Life Coaching for me…

life coachingI was recently on a boat with a group of men that I didn’t know…yes, myself and four men…and they were guy’s guys, hard working, down-to-earth men. A few hours into the trip, they asked me what I did for a living. When I told them I was a life coach, one of them said “Well, I always thought that was rather a bogus profession. You are not a therapist and you are not a psychologist; what can a life coach really do?” Oh, how I love honesty… and challenging individuals; it must be the Aquarian in me. I responded by saying “Well, actually, the people I help the most with life coaching are guys in their twenties that are suicidal. They don’t want to see a therapist or a psychologist; most people don’t. I help these guys see themselves, their lives, and the people in it, with new perspective.” The men asked me if I had ever lost one of them and I was happy to tell them that I had not.

They asked me who else I help. I told them that one of my favourite things to do is to help family members or couples, who do not get along, forge a closeness they haven’t experienced in years, if ever. I told them that I could help any two individuals become close to one another, as long as they had the desire to become closer to one another. I explained that I have them stand on hearts and speak from their hearts to one another (as opposed to speaking from their heads) and that by the end of emptying their hearts, they stand together, on their two hearts, fully understanding one another and united.

The men were definitely interested in this. They asked me what helps me the most in my coaching. I said “My lack of judgment; I have come to understand that it’s very rare. When people know that I truly understand and love them, they feel safe to really open up and share their deepest fears and regrets with me. Their ability to be completely honest with me, allows me to truly help them.” This, of course, begs the question “How can you love people you have just met?” And my answer is “Because when you go through challenge after challenge and you come to love and forgive yourself, as well those that hurt you, you can’t help but be brimming with love for everyone that crosses your path.” Thank goodness, we didn’t have this part of the conversation or the guys would have likely thrown me overboard!

There are four other tools that help me with my life coaching:
1. The powerful questions that I ask so that my clients can search within themselves for their right answer and insight. I can never know the right answer for a client nor can I know when the timing is right for them to make a change.
2. My knowledge of holistic nutrition so that we can determine if there is a nutrient deficiency contributing to their lack of energy, depression or other challenge. And so that I can explain the emotional connection to their physical challenge or to any food/drink cravings they might have.
3. My ability to present individuals with options as to how to look at things and how to move forward. I find that people can’t always have the perspective they need on their own lives.
4. This one is my secret…only my clients know it!

I have been an accredited life coach since 2012 but I have studied people physically, mentally and emotionally my whole life. Don’t ask me about world events, finances or technology. Ask me about people and I will tell you everything you want to know. I am honoured to have been asked to help the suicidal teens in Woodstock, Ontario; I go there tomorrow with a group of other life coaches.

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Meredith

6 Ways to Protect your Family from Viruses, including Ebola

ebola virusPretty much every year, the media scares the majority of us with news of the latest virus that is making individuals sick or worse. Viral infections that have hit the world in recent years include H1N1, West Nile Virus, Norwalk Virus, SARS (Severe Acute Respiratory Syndrome) and Ebola, amongst others. Here are 6 areas of our lives to focus on if we want to protect our families and make them virus resistant and the healthiest possible: Continue reading

4 Dietary Causes and Other Help for Sleep Challenges

kids trouble sleepingIf babies awake a few times a night, that’s normal. However, if babies are up every few minutes or every hour, you may have a sleep challenge on your hands. When it comes to children, it is ideal for them to sleep for at least 8 hours in a row. If a child awakes and feels rested within 5-10 minutes, they are getting enough sleep. When a child is tired, nothing is easy. Here are 5 possible repercussions of insufficient sleep including dietary causes:

  • The challenge of feeling tired.
  • A compromised immune system, increasing susceptibility to food sensitivities and sickness.
  • Diminished mental function, increasing their risk of harmful accidents
  • An increased focus on the negatives rather than the positives
  • Appetite changes (a child might eat more to gain energy or eat less because they are too tired)

Here are 4 dietary causes of sleep challenges: Continue reading

Part 2 – The Value and Function of Each Vitamin and Mineral

Minerals needed by the bodyIn part 1 of this 2 part series, I promised you that I would summarize the value and function of each mineral, so that is exactly what I am going to do. By reading over these descriptions, you can form ideas as to which ones you or your child might be deficient in and which ones you might have a sufficient amount of.

Calcium is necessary for: Continue reading

Minimizing and Eliminating Allergies Part 3 of 3

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In this blog series on Food Allergies, you learned to discern the difference between food sensitivities and allergies as well as some of the symptoms or conditions caused by adverse reactions to foods (part 1), and how to detect the culprit foods and which foods present the most common challenges in babies (part 2).  In this last post of the series, you will learn what to do to minimize and eliminate food sensitivities and allergies. All of this information is covered in more detail in my first book “The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Healthy Kids.

All adverse reactions to foods cause inflammation in the body. Food sensitivities and allergies cause the gut lining to be inflamed, which subsequently makes it hard for vitamins and minerals to be properly absorbed. Inflammation is behind all illness. I want to briefly discuss the link between inflammation and illness, by using gluten as an example. A recently written book, “Grain Brain” by David Perlmutter, MD does an excellent job of explaining that gluten is behind almost every inflammatory condition, especially those involving the brain. “Wheat Belly” by Dr. William Davis discusses how gluten causes obesity, one of the conditions caused by inflammation. Many well-known authors have shown the link between gluten and arthritis, M.S., Lupus and other diseases! Continue reading

Allergies/Sensitivities Part 2 – How to Recognize Allergy Symptoms in Babies

allergies in babiesIn my last blog post, we talked about the difference between food allergies and food sensitivities and why it is crucial to find out if your child is affected. In this 2nd of 3 posts, we’ll talk about how to recognize allergy symptoms in babies.

Dr. Doris Rapp, a guest on Oprah’s show, has been a pediatric allergist since 1960. She has done incredible research on food sensitivities and allergies affecting children and has written numerous books on the subject. Her observations of reactions to foods i.e. symptoms, starting in the womb, are quite fascinating.
Don’t we often wonder why our babies kick us or have the hiccups when in the womb? And why do our babies become agitated shortly after we feed them? Dr. Rapp says “I have known unborn babies who would hiccup or kick hard enough in the womb to bruise the mother. These mothers should think of what they ate half an hour before the baby started to act this way. If they do, they may be able to figure out what is bothering the baby down in the uterus. One woman found that every time she ate a cannoli her baby began to kick her. The baby was having a prenatal allergic reaction and was attempting to tell the mother not to eat cannolis. The same thing might happen after the baby is born. If a baby is totally breast-feeding and that baby becomes agitated after feeding, that mother should ask herself what she ate the previous meal. The food can come through the breast milk and make the baby sick.” Good Food, Good Mood quotes Dr. Rapp on page 13.

Babies cannot be allergic to breast milk but they can certainly be allergic to the food that that mother has eaten and passed through her breast milk. My daughter, Taylor, had projectile vomiting the first time I consumed dairy and then breast-fed her. What are other symptoms in babies that can be caused by allergies?

  • Colic
  • Excessive drooling
  • Spit-up
  • Diarrhea/Constipation
  • Diaper rashes or any skin rashes
  • Chronic runny rose
  • Multiple ear infections
  • Poor sleeping
  • Frequent coughing/colds
  • Pale face
  • Excessive thirst

What are the most common foods to which babies react adversely?

  • Dairy
  • Wheat
  • Sugar
  • Soy
  • Chocolate
  • Chemicals i.e. chlorine, food dye, additives, etc.
  • Citrus
  • Tree nuts
  • Peanuts
  • Caffeine
  • Tomatoes
  • Strawberries

But a baby can react adversely to any food. Rice cereal is becoming a common allergen for many of today’s babies. We are also seeing babies react to sweet potatoes and carrots, presumably due to the high sugar content in these foods. No food is exempt from causing a reaction.

What is the most accurate way to determine the food(s) to which your child is reacting? Keeping a food and symptom journal over an extended period of time is the ONLY fool-proof method for determining your baby’s culprit food(s). This involves recording what your baby has consumed on their own or in your breast milk and any resulting symptoms within 24 hours of consumption. The journal will show the patterns e.g. every time he has pureed strawberries, he gets a rash on his cheeks.

Every time your baby is exposed to a food that they don’t agree with, they cannot properly absorb the vitamins and minerals from that food and symptoms result. Please do all that you can to determine and avoid your baby’s culprit food(s)! I am always here to help you if you need me!

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Meredith

Food Allergies vs Food Sensitivities Part 1 of 3

asthma and food allergiesWhat is the difference between food allergies and food sensitivities and why is it crucial to find out if your child is affected?

When your child is not sleeping soundly, behaving well, concentrating in school, or is experiencing colic, constipation, eczema, recurrent ear infections or asthma, your child’s body is signalling to you that aspects of his or her environment are not agreeing with him or her; they may have a food sensitivity or allergy. The earlier you can uncover the culprit food or foods, the better. Our bodies will keep communicating with us whether we listen or not. An ignored reaction to a food becomes a “symptom” and an ignored symptom becomes more ignored symptoms and more ignored symptoms turn into conditions and then, often, in adulthood, conditions turn into disease. Continue reading