My Changing View of Women

Many wonder why we celebrate Valentine’s Day, Family Day, Women’s Day and the like… I personally like that we have designated days to celebrate things. I don’t feel that the majority of North Americans celebrate enough. When we celebrate things, we are seeing the positives and we are being grateful. And, you know that anger and fear cannot anchor in the mind of one that is overcome with gratitude.

As a child and a teenager, I couldn’t even say the word “woman”. I did not want to become a woman because the women that were my examples were not the type of people I wanted to become. I refused to carry a purse or wear jewellery and I dressed very plainly. In my twenties, I had female bosses that I was unable to look up to…

It wasn’t until I had my first child, that my respect for women began to take root. We all grow up being told that women are the weaker gender. Why, then are the women slated to go through labour and then perform the hardest job on earth of raising children to become successful adults? As a mother, I began watching all the working moms. They went to work, raised their children, kept their house in order and remained the emotional backbone of the whole family. I watched as their children grew up physically and emotionally and began contributing to the world. I saw the strength in these women as they overcame each challenge one at a time. I noticed that they simultaneously became more and more important in their careers. I watched with awe and wonder at the capabilities of women and one day, began embracing being female.

Today, through my work, I help some of these women. When I see their hair analysis results and when I help them through life coaching, I see the strain that their busy lives have put on their bodies and minds. I see the vitamins and minerals they are lacking in and the systems that are out of balance in their bodies. I have met with a lot of women now and I see the patterns….the majority of them are doing too much for others and not enough for themselves. That is their biggest weakness but I now know that women are far from weak.

One of my most important jobs is to help women see their own importance. I help them get back on track by helping them come to love themselves the way the rest of us love them! I help them learn to nurture themselves and feel grateful for their copious accomplishments.

It was only through writing this blog that I realized that I went from not wanting to be a woman, to loving being a woman, to supporting women in any way that I could because I now revere them so much. Because of International Women’s Day, I was able to have this insight into myself and into women in general. To all the women out there that are reading this blog, I CELEBRATE you; I SEE you; I LOVE you, and I am immensely proud to be one of you.

6 Steps to Making Your Life Your Masterpiece

Make Your Life Your Masterpiece At this time each year, we have the privilege of experiencing a few hours, in which we can dream about what the New Year might hold for us. We can dream of making an aspect or many aspects of our lives better. There are four important aspects to dreaming:

  • Whatever we continually dream for ourselves really is possible, otherwise we wouldn’t have those dreams. Remember that you have a beautiful spirit within yourself, regardless of the circumstances of your life. Whatever it is that you dream of in your heart of hearts, you deserve to achieve it.
  • Make Your Life Your Masterpiece - BookOur dreams do not manifest because we know the way. They manifest because we believe they will. Doreen Virtue says that manifestations are not rewards for good behaviour; manifesting our dreams is a product of our thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions.
  • We must be open to listening and exploring the avenues that present themselves to us – in our thoughts, in the synchronicities we experience or those shared by others.
  • If our dream is not, first and foremost, for the higher good or emanating from our heart, it may not manifest to the degree we hope it will.

What are the 6 steps to making your life your masterpiece?

  1. Write down the improvements you want to see in your life, ensuring your list contains easy-to-achieve, as well as, harder-to-achieve goals.
  2. Now, start to visualize how it will feel in your body and mind once you achieve one or more of your goals. Continue to visualize achieving your goals, feeling the joy of each accomplishment within. Create a vision board to help you FEEL your success; I have attached mine, as an example.My vision board
  3. Do not tell anyone what your goals are or what you are doing. You do not need to prove yourself to anyone. Know that when we speak to others about our efforts to manifest, our power is weakened because our ego has entered the picture.
  4. Begin acting as though you have achieved your goal. If your goal is to have greater financial success, dress as though you are already successful.
  5. Create an affirmation for yourself and say it out loud to yourself many times a day for a minimum of 5 weeks. Examples include:

    “I radiate health and happiness from within”

    or

    “I attract people that love and appreciate me.”

    When you first start saying your affirmation, you may not believe it but, over time, your subconscious mind will come to believe it.

  6. As each aspect of what you want appears, be grateful and more will appear.

DO THIS EACH YEAR AND YOU WILL MAKE YOUR LIFE YOUR MASTERPIECE!

You Are A Gift

Merry Christmas - You Are A GiftIn the holiday season, you might find yourself hustling and bustling, thinking of what you are going to buy or bake or how you will decorate your home or how you will plan for a party… and this is all on top of living your regular life! You might be worrying about relationships, your success or your heath. You might feel overwhelmed, confused, impatient or even angry. You might have troubles falling asleep or staying asleep, as the torrent of your thoughts piles through your head. The possibilities of where your mind can take you are absolutely endless. But, notice I have just reminded you that it is your thoughts that you allow to control you. Your thoughts are not who you are.

At our core, we are innate goodness and love. Who we are, as young children, is who we really are – loving, trusting, free, imaginative and completely accepting.

When we come to love ourselves, we gradually let go of our worries and fears and open our hearts. It is more natural for us to love and have positive feelings than to fear and have negative feelings. When we discover our inner beauty, we come alive again and our biggest needs are met. We are able to relate lovingly to others and know how to embrace the present moment.

I ask you to stop being so hard on yourself. I ask you to take stock of the person you have become. Take stock of your accomplishments. All challenges and regrets are learning ground. Take stock of what you have learned. Take stock of all the aspects of your life that are not as you want them to be. Be thankful that it’s those aspects of your life that are not as you want them to be, as opposed to others. Be grateful for where you are right now, in this very moment. I ask you to be grateful for it all until feelings of acceptance and understanding engulf you.

I am imagining you experiencing these feelings and your smile as it spreads across your face. I am imagining your eyes shining brightly. I am feeling the love within you come alive. YOU are a GIFT. You have talents unique to you, you are loved, you are perfect just the way you are and your life is exactly the way it is supposed to be at this time. If in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, my message reminds you that you are a gift, I have done my job.

As always, I welcome your feedback. Would you like to connect? You can reach me via email or phone, leave a comment right here on the site, or click the contact tab at the bottom of the screen if you are reading this post on the website.

Until next time,

Meredith

Helping Individuals Clear their Emotional Blocks

mental blockYou all know that I absolutely love what I do with my life coaching but I felt the need to explain in greater detail why it fascinates me so much!!!
A boy in his twenties came to me, who had been depressed for a couple of years. Within a few sessions of asking him powerful questions (that is their actual name) and doing some sub-conscious work, he realized that he didn’t want to become successful because he didn’t want his mother to take the credit. Wow! You see how our thoughts determine our reality? I helped him understand this concept and then asked him if he was done suffering…I then helped him forgive his mother and set goals for his future. He is now in law school and, last time I saw him, he was literally on top of the world.

“Any belief that contradicts our innate greatness needs to be addressed if we want to meet our own needs” Meredith Deasley – The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health

A woman in her thirties came to me to help her put an end to her emotional eating, which she had been doing for years. In our third session together, we uncovered that she had not forgiven herself for marrying her husband! You might think that the solution would have to been to help her end her marriage but you would be wrong! We just needed to determine how she was going to turn things around with him by coming to love herself first. I ended up teaching her at CSNN and was pleased to learn that she was now happy in her relationship.

“When we bare our souls and speak from the deepest parts of ourselves, with complete honesty and humiliation, we allow ourselves to heal.” Meredith Deasley – The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health

A woman in her forties came to me to help her live the life she had always wanted for herself. It turns out that she had not forgiven herself for something her father had forced her to do as a child. She had never told anyone about this incident before. Knowing what I knew of her father, I asked her if he had threatened to kill her if she did not comply with his wishes. She said that that is exactly what he had done. I explained that a young child will do anything to survive and that she can stop blaming herself. Suffering ceases to be suffering when we form a clear picture of it in our minds. My client began setting healthy boundaries with the men in her life from that point forward. She is now slowly taking the steps to living the live she always wanted for herself.

“It is when we allow our negative stories to define us and determine what is possible for ourselves that we stifle our growth as individuals” Meredith Deasley – The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health

Ironically, we already are what we spend our lives trying to be. My job is to help others see their own greatness. Now do you see why I love what I do so much?

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Meredith

Stress – Its Underlying Cause

what causes stressStress is the underlying cause behind much of the illness we experience. Irritable Bowel Syndrome is a perfect example of a stress-induced illness. But what is the root cause of stress? When we experience stress, we are resisting the flow of life. Stress is not caused by the circumstances of our lives but by our reaction to the choices we have made that result in the circumstances of our lives.

When the circumstances of our lives or people don’t meet our approval, we focus our energy on trying to control or change our external circumstances or the people in our lives. Or we bend over backwards to please the people in our lives. Why do we give our power away in this way?
We expend a massive amount of energy trying to change our external circumstances or other people. We also expend a massive amount of energy trying to conceal the pain of our past. Anything we want to change or we’re afraid of or angry about or refuse to accept will keep us attached to our past and the beliefs or expectations that stemmed from our past. Resisting what is will never make it disappear.

How do we recognize our stress?
We know we are resisting i.e. experiencing stress when we experience physical manifestations such as a stiff neck, clenched jaw, headache, stomach ache, sighing and tightness in the chest, just to give a few examples. Once we recognize where our resistance or stress is anchoring in our body, we are able to identify it and the triggers more easily.

The root cause of all stress
The root cause of all stress is a lack of love and belief in ourselves. These feelings generate fear …fear of saying “no”, fear of setting boundaries with others, fear of putting our own needs first, fear of not having the approval of others, fear that we cannot survive without a certain job or partner….

What do we need to do to let go of our stress?
“The crucial times to let go are when you feel the strongest urge not to” (The Path to Love by Deepak Chopra page 170).

Once we accept that this is the way it is going to be with this job or this situation or this person or this quality about ourselves that we don’t like, we can stop resisting and let things flow effortlessly. This concept is referred to as “surrendering.” Our ego mistakes surrendering for failure and the end of power, but when we surrender, we transcend our ego and let go of control of circumstances over which we really never had any control anyway. We can stop forcing things and simply allow things to happen. We are most powerful when we are working with life rather than against it. Surrendering is stopping ourselves from doing the things that make us miserable, crazy or self-hating. When we stop abusing ourselves, love and healing can move in. This is when we can determine what we need to do to create joy in our lives.

What are you going to do differently in your life to ensure you experience the most joy in your life this holiday season?

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11 Ways to Know If Your Child Is Emotionally Healthy

Kid's Life Coach OntarioIt is difficult to gauge one’s level of emotional health when most of us don’t even know what emotional health is. My intention is to show you how to know if your child is emotionally healthy, to explain what causes a child to be unhealthy emotionally and what you can do about it when they are not. We know our child is emotionally healthy by: Continue reading

The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health

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For the past three and a half years, I have been writing and publishing my second book, entitled “The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health”.

We are not angry people who fight all the time and criticize others; that is not who we are. We are not the people who work ourselves to the bone to prove ourselves to others; that is not who we are. We are not constant complainers who can’t get anything to go the way we want it to in our lives; that is not who we are. We really are just peaceful, loving and happy individuals. Continue reading

The Importance of Speaking Our Truth

Speaking our truthThere comes a time in every person’s life when we need to make a decision – a decision to stand up for who we are; a decision to stand up and say what we believe in; a decision to expose secrets about ourselves that we have kept hidden; a decision to speak our truth. That time has come for me.

Many of you know that my thyroid has not worked properly for over a decade. It’s not a horrible situation and I take the lowest possible dose of natural thyroid but as long as I have had that imbalance, I have known that I have needed to speak my truth – there is always an emotional connection to our physical challenges. Please visit these prior blog posts on the subject; The Emotional Connection to Physical Illness and Emotional Causes of Physical Ailments.

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