Meeting Our Children’s Needs Through the Lens of the Heart

Being a parent is hands down the toughest job that exists on the planet but it also has the potential to be the most rewarding job one could perform.  It is when we open our hearts to meeting our children’s needs and see the innocence and goodness in them, no matter what happens, that makes our job so rewarding.

I remember doing a nutrition seminar for a group of grade 5 students.  There was a boy in the class that was not allowed to sit with the rest of the children because he had misbehaved too many times.  I wanted to share samples of healthy chocolate bars, called Twilight, with the class.  The boy asked me if he could distribute the chocolates to his classmates.  Out of the corner of my eye, I could see his teacher start walking towards him, as if to prevent this from happening.  The boy knew she was coming and looked at me with fear in his eyes.  Before she could arrive at the boy’s desk, I held the tray of chocolates in front of him, looked him right in the eye and told him “I trust that you will take this around to each of your fellow students carefully and quietly, ensuring that every child takes only one sample and that you will return the tray to me.”  He did exactly that.  I could feel his gratitude for my trust in him and his pleasure at being given this responsibility.  And because I believed in him, he believed in himself.  Now, imagine if this boy was parented in this way each and every day.  How different would his life be?  How much would he come to love himself?

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