Helping Individuals Clear their Emotional Blocks

mental blockYou all know that I absolutely love what I do with my life coaching but I felt the need to explain in greater detail why it fascinates me so much!!!
A boy in his twenties came to me, who had been depressed for a couple of years. Within a few sessions of asking him powerful questions (that is their actual name) and doing some sub-conscious work, he realized that he didn’t want to become successful because he didn’t want his mother to take the credit. Wow! You see how our thoughts determine our reality? I helped him understand this concept and then asked him if he was done suffering…I then helped him forgive his mother and set goals for his future. He is now in law school and, last time I saw him, he was literally on top of the world.

“Any belief that contradicts our innate greatness needs to be addressed if we want to meet our own needs” Meredith Deasley – The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health

A woman in her thirties came to me to help her put an end to her emotional eating, which she had been doing for years. In our third session together, we uncovered that she had not forgiven herself for marrying her husband! You might think that the solution would have to been to help her end her marriage but you would be wrong! We just needed to determine how she was going to turn things around with him by coming to love herself first. I ended up teaching her at CSNN and was pleased to learn that she was now happy in her relationship.

“When we bare our souls and speak from the deepest parts of ourselves, with complete honesty and humiliation, we allow ourselves to heal.” Meredith Deasley – The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health

A woman in her forties came to me to help her live the life she had always wanted for herself. It turns out that she had not forgiven herself for something her father had forced her to do as a child. She had never told anyone about this incident before. Knowing what I knew of her father, I asked her if he had threatened to kill her if she did not comply with his wishes. She said that that is exactly what he had done. I explained that a young child will do anything to survive and that she can stop blaming herself. Suffering ceases to be suffering when we form a clear picture of it in our minds. My client began setting healthy boundaries with the men in her life from that point forward. She is now slowly taking the steps to living the live she always wanted for herself.

“It is when we allow our negative stories to define us and determine what is possible for ourselves that we stifle our growth as individuals” Meredith Deasley – The Resourceful Mother’s Secrets to Emotional Health

Ironically, we already are what we spend our lives trying to be. My job is to help others see their own greatness. Now do you see why I love what I do so much?

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Meredith

A Commentary on the “You Are Not Special” Commencement Speech

achievementI have always told you how special our children are.  I have always suggested that we tell our children how special they are and treat them as such.  I have always talked about the importance of explaining to our children that we love them no matter what they do, even if they misbehave or make a wrong decision.  Not long ago, there was a commencement speech that went viral.  An English teacher, David McCullough Jr. told a Boston graduation class, over and over, that they were not special.   And I believe he made a number of valid points. If you haven’t already heard this speech, I have included it here. For those of you receiving this blog post via email, please click here.

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24 Negative Effects of Marijuana Use

marijuanaWith all of the people extolling the benefits of Marijuana and Oprah’s recent admission that she smoked Marijuana for the past thirty years plus, many are probably wondering, “How bad can this drug be?”  I decided it was time to inform you of the adverse effects of the drug.  Marijuana is the most commonly used illicit drug in the North America.  Since 2007, its use has increased among young people and today more teenagers smoke Marijuana than cigarettes, according to annual survey data.  To make matters worse, the amount of delta-9 tetrahydrocannabinol (THC) in Marijuana samples, confiscated by police, has been increasing steadily over the past few decades. In 2009, THC concentrations in marijuana averaged close to 10 percent, compared to around 4 percent in the 1980s.  Here are 24 negative effects of Marijuana use.

What are the short-term effects of marijuana?

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How to Help Your Child Become Interested in Exercise

importance of kids exercisingIt was warm out, the sun was low in the sky and the world couldn’t have looked any more beautiful.  I was riding my bike, listening to music and feeling like a million bucks.  It occurred to me that there are too many children missing out on this euphoria.  We all know how important exercise is for our physical and emotional wellbeing but I know that some parents are out there, wondering how to get their children interested in it.

Before my eldest daughter joined a gym that she absolutely loves and visits regularly (she started when she was 12 years old, which is the minimum age at most gyms), and before my youngest got into baseball and competitive dance, neither of my girls were very interested in regular exercise.   I had thought that their school gym program got their heart rates up regularly but was saddened to learn that that was not the case.

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6 Physical Symptoms You Wouldn’t Think are Related to Food

Over 200 physical symptoms, conditions and diseases that you wouldn’t think are related to food can actually be caused or worsened by food.  We eat food every few hours, all day long; it is the main substance that we ingest yet many of us refuse to believe its impact on the body.  “The incidence of diet-related problems is greater than the incidence of any other type of illness affecting mankind.”  James Breneman.  What are 6 of these diet-related problems?

Bedwetting – When children pass the age of 5 and they are still wetting the bed, they are usually reacting to a food.  The most common culprits are dairy, wheat and sugar.  What happens is that the bladder becomes inflamed from any of these foods and swells to such a degree that it cannot hold as much urine and therefore needs to be emptied more frequently.

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Meredith Deasley – Kids Coaching Connection Coach

Understanding Your Child’s Love Language

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Yesterday, I completed the Kids Coaching Connection Program, endorsed by the International Coach Federation (ICF)! and became a life coach for children!  I cannot tell you how pleased I am to have been given the multitude of tools that I now possess to help children move through their emotional challenges.  Thank you to the many families that have allowed me to help their children, in this capacity, over the past year and a half.

One of the tools that I was reminded of in this program was “The Five Love Languages for Children,” which originated from Gary Chapman’s book of the same name.  Condensing his work, he describes the love languages as follows:

1. Words of Affirmation – These children feel appreciated and loved when they hear positive messages from others.  Examples include “I love you.”  “You did an incredible job playing defense today. Did you see how many times you prevented the other team from scoring?”

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