Why Counting Your Blessings is The Most Important Thing You Can Do with Your Life

The very first official Thanksgiving was celebrated in Canada on November 6, 1879. It was at this time, that Parliament passed a law designating this national day of thanksgiving, to celebrate the harvest and other blessings of the prior year. In fact, the indigenous people in Canada celebrated the full harvest, long before the arrival of the European settlers and the actual designation of the day.

As we look at Thanksgiving, over the course of our lives, we might notice the changes in who we celebrated with, what we ate, what town or city we were in and where we were at in our lives. And many of you might have noticed that there was only one constant…yourself. You were there each and every year, hopefully celebrating the harvest of your life, particularly the blessings you experienced in the prior year.

Have you ever been in a bad mood and only seen the areas of your life that were not going well? Of course, you have! This happens to everyone. It’s the way our minds work….unless we train them to do otherwise.

I have a friend who has allowed her mind to always remind her of what was going wrong in her life. And everything was always going wrong in her life. I explained to her that until she decides to stop being a victim, nothing will get better for her. I explained to her that whatever we focus on in our lives is what persists. And I explained that her underlying challenge was that her horrific childhood made her believe that she didn’t deserve anything better in her life. I talked to her about this for years, telling her that one day she will DECIDE that she deserves and wants more for herself. I told her she could stay in this place for as long as she wanted but that one day she would know when the pain was too great to remain where she was.

Recently, she was in a restaurant with a friend when a car came smashing through the window and stopped within a few feet of where she was sitting!!! She contacted me immediately and wanted to discuss the significance of the incident. She determined that her life was spared for a reason. The car came way too close to her without actually hitting her. The next week, she called in desperation because she was confined to her apartment for many days because a sickness she had contracted was contagious. I explained that it was now time to go into quiet contemplation, so that she could DECIDE how she was really going to LIVE her life. I suggested reading and immersing herself in things she loved doing. She did just that.

This Thanksgiving weekend, she told me that she turned down a dinner invitation from a friend who truly did not appreciate her. She shared a meal with her nephew and his son and spent hours in the park together; she thoroughly enjoyed a free Thanksgiving dinner at the community centre; she finished reading a book and has started another one (and this woman doesn’t read!). This Thanksgiving, I celebrate the commencement of her healing; this is a HUGE feat for this 52 year old woman who has hardly spent any time counting her blessings until now.

 

As for myself, I got to celebrate Thanksgiving with both of my girls. We picked apples that Taylor made into a scrumptious pie. And we had a traditional multi-dish meal with the man and woman, who are the parents I always wanted but never had, until eight years ago! Could I write pages about the things I am grateful for? No question. Is that the number one thing I do that makes me so happy and healthy, despite the challenges I have faced in my life? It absolutely is.

Hoping you had the most delightful Thanksgiving weekend. And if it wasn’t, you know what to do next year at this time.

A Letter to My Daughters This Mother’s Day

When I met the father of my girls, I told him that having children would be the most important thing I ever did with my life. This baffled him because I was such a corporate girl, at the time. Shortly after we were married, I even went so far as to tell him that I thought we should apply for adoption, in case we were never able to have children. That’s how important having children was to me.

Giving birth and raising my girls has been the greatest pleasure of my life. And having my girls led me to my calling. Because of what they taught me, I get to be a “mother” to many individuals, through my company “The Resourceful Mother”.

I am dedicating this blog post to my girls, Taylor and Paige. Oh boy, the tears have already started welling up in my eyes…

Dearest Taylor and Paige,

Your bodies taught me the value of eating healthily and we can see the results of doing so in all aspects of our lives. Your emotions have shown me the value of truly feeling, then encouraged me to learn how to process those emotions properly and, in turn, allowed us to always find the perspective we needed to heal from any situation. Your minds have challenged me to find greater wisdom, guiding us to learning unique information about this world. Your spirits caused me to probe deeper into what lies beyond that which we are able to see and, as a result, we know that we are never alone on this planet and that there are a multitude of beings that help us each and every day. Your hearts, open wide right from the start, pried mine wide open, which then allowed us to keep our hearts wide open, as we navigated the trials of being human.

I was not truly living until the two of you entered my life. I owe my energetic body, my deep joy, my unique wisdom, my deep connection to spirit and my great love and respect for myself and others to the two of you. And I now know that this is an opportunity that EVERY parent has when they give birth and raise a child.

We have spent almost 18 years learning from one another. This fall, you head off to university, Taylor. I don’t feel any pulls at my heart strings because I know I have done my job and you have done yours; I have full confidence that you have everything you need to venture forth in this world. And Paige, you will enter grade 11, and through your co-op, you will decide the direction you will take in venturing forth in this world. I have full confidence that you will make the right decision for you. Whether or not either one of you makes the large contribution to this world that you plan to make, our souls have evolved in the direction they were meant to go in.

I am infinitely grateful for the two of you. I thank you for the depth of our connection and for the profound joy and never-ending love that we experience. I thank you for giving me the family I always wanted so badly. Thank you for allowing me to celebrate the gift of YOU each Mother’s Day and every day of my life.

All my love and appreciation,

Mama

You Are A Gift

Merry Christmas - You Are A GiftIn the holiday season, you might find yourself hustling and bustling, thinking of what you are going to buy or bake or how you will decorate your home or how you will plan for a party… and this is all on top of living your regular life! You might be worrying about relationships, your success or your heath. You might feel overwhelmed, confused, impatient or even angry. You might have troubles falling asleep or staying asleep, as the torrent of your thoughts piles through your head. The possibilities of where your mind can take you are absolutely endless. But, notice I have just reminded you that it is your thoughts that you allow to control you. Your thoughts are not who you are.

At our core, we are innate goodness and love. Who we are, as young children, is who we really are – loving, trusting, free, imaginative and completely accepting.

When we come to love ourselves, we gradually let go of our worries and fears and open our hearts. It is more natural for us to love and have positive feelings than to fear and have negative feelings. When we discover our inner beauty, we come alive again and our biggest needs are met. We are able to relate lovingly to others and know how to embrace the present moment.

I ask you to stop being so hard on yourself. I ask you to take stock of the person you have become. Take stock of your accomplishments. All challenges and regrets are learning ground. Take stock of what you have learned. Take stock of all the aspects of your life that are not as you want them to be. Be thankful that it’s those aspects of your life that are not as you want them to be, as opposed to others. Be grateful for where you are right now, in this very moment. I ask you to be grateful for it all until feelings of acceptance and understanding engulf you.

I am imagining you experiencing these feelings and your smile as it spreads across your face. I am imagining your eyes shining brightly. I am feeling the love within you come alive. YOU are a GIFT. You have talents unique to you, you are loved, you are perfect just the way you are and your life is exactly the way it is supposed to be at this time. If in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, my message reminds you that you are a gift, I have done my job.

As always, I welcome your feedback. Would you like to connect? You can reach me via email or phone, leave a comment right here on the site, or click the contact tab at the bottom of the screen if you are reading this post on the website.

Until next time,

Meredith

The Power of Affirmations

bigstock-Stress-Management-in-word-coll-38840914I used to smoke cigarettes in my twenties.  Sometimes people would tell me that I didn’t look like a smoker (hmmm what does a smoker look like?) and they would ask me why I smoked.  I told them that I was rebelling from my childhood and that I would stop smoking, as soon as I became pregnant, believing that it would be entirely easy for me to do so.  As soon as I found out I was pregnant, which luckily was in the first few weeks of my pregnancy, I quit smoking (too bad it didn’t happen before I became pregnant!).  I never desired a cigarette again.  Who quits smoking without ever desiring to smoke again?  Only a person that had unknowingly used the power of an affirmation for over a decade and came to believe, without a shadow of a doubt, that they would accomplish that task, no problem.   This also showed me that whatever we believe and say, in our heads or out loud, is really an affirmation.

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Dreaming the Dream

bigstock-Success-Freedom-Woman-near-the-30640106At this time, each year, we have the privilege of experiencing a moment of time, in which we think about what the New Year might hold for each of us.  We can dream of making an aspect or many aspects of our lives better or we can dream about continuing to be overcome by the joy that we are currently experiencing.   Dreaming the dream is, in itself, so incredible…. and whatever we can dream for ourselves really is possible for ourselves, otherwise we wouldn’t dream it.

When I think back to the dreams I had last January, I remember wanting my book published and in my hands by my 41st birthday even though I had no idea how to publish a book – it arrived two days after my birthday.  I remember wanting to have sold all 1000 copies of my book within a year of receiving them because if I could sell that many books, I would feel as though far more families were being helped than I was able to help without the book – I accomplished that goal within 9 months of receiving my book.  I remember wanting my girls to become the happiest they had ever been at school – that dream, too, was accomplished.  In fact, when my husband asked my eldest what her greatest accomplishment was last year, she said it was attending her new school and finding it to be all that she had visualized!  There were even more dreams that were realized by our family last year but you get the idea.

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