A Letter to My Daughters This Mother’s Day

When I met the father of my girls, I told him that having children would be the most important thing I ever did with my life. This baffled him because I was such a corporate girl, at the time. Shortly after we were married, I even went so far as to tell him that I thought we should apply for adoption, in case we were never able to have children. That’s how important having children was to me.

Giving birth and raising my girls has been the greatest pleasure of my life. And having my girls led me to my calling. Because of what they taught me, I get to be a “mother” to many individuals, through my company “The Resourceful Mother”.

I am dedicating this blog post to my girls, Taylor and Paige. Oh boy, the tears have already started welling up in my eyes…

Dearest Taylor and Paige,

Your bodies taught me the value of eating healthily and we can see the results of doing so in all aspects of our lives. Your emotions have shown me the value of truly feeling, then encouraged me to learn how to process those emotions properly and, in turn, allowed us to always find the perspective we needed to heal from any situation. Your minds have challenged me to find greater wisdom, guiding us to learning unique information about this world. Your spirits caused me to probe deeper into what lies beyond that which we are able to see and, as a result, we know that we are never alone on this planet and that there are a multitude of beings that help us each and every day. Your hearts, open wide right from the start, pried mine wide open, which then allowed us to keep our hearts wide open, as we navigated the trials of being human.

I was not truly living until the two of you entered my life. I owe my energetic body, my deep joy, my unique wisdom, my deep connection to spirit and my great love and respect for myself and others to the two of you. And I now know that this is an opportunity that EVERY parent has when they give birth and raise a child.

We have spent almost 18 years learning from one another. This fall, you head off to university, Taylor. I don’t feel any pulls at my heart strings because I know I have done my job and you have done yours; I have full confidence that you have everything you need to venture forth in this world. And Paige, you will enter grade 11, and through your co-op, you will decide the direction you will take in venturing forth in this world. I have full confidence that you will make the right decision for you. Whether or not either one of you makes the large contribution to this world that you plan to make, our souls have evolved in the direction they were meant to go in.

I am infinitely grateful for the two of you. I thank you for the depth of our connection and for the profound joy and never-ending love that we experience. I thank you for giving me the family I always wanted so badly. Thank you for allowing me to celebrate the gift of YOU each Mother’s Day and every day of my life.

All my love and appreciation,

Mama

You Are A Gift

Merry Christmas - You Are A GiftIn the holiday season, you might find yourself hustling and bustling, thinking of what you are going to buy or bake or how you will decorate your home or how you will plan for a party… and this is all on top of living your regular life! You might be worrying about relationships, your success or your heath. You might feel overwhelmed, confused, impatient or even angry. You might have troubles falling asleep or staying asleep, as the torrent of your thoughts piles through your head. The possibilities of where your mind can take you are absolutely endless. But, notice I have just reminded you that it is your thoughts that you allow to control you. Your thoughts are not who you are.

At our core, we are innate goodness and love. Who we are, as young children, is who we really are – loving, trusting, free, imaginative and completely accepting.

When we come to love ourselves, we gradually let go of our worries and fears and open our hearts. It is more natural for us to love and have positive feelings than to fear and have negative feelings. When we discover our inner beauty, we come alive again and our biggest needs are met. We are able to relate lovingly to others and know how to embrace the present moment.

I ask you to stop being so hard on yourself. I ask you to take stock of the person you have become. Take stock of your accomplishments. All challenges and regrets are learning ground. Take stock of what you have learned. Take stock of all the aspects of your life that are not as you want them to be. Be thankful that it’s those aspects of your life that are not as you want them to be, as opposed to others. Be grateful for where you are right now, in this very moment. I ask you to be grateful for it all until feelings of acceptance and understanding engulf you.

I am imagining you experiencing these feelings and your smile as it spreads across your face. I am imagining your eyes shining brightly. I am feeling the love within you come alive. YOU are a GIFT. You have talents unique to you, you are loved, you are perfect just the way you are and your life is exactly the way it is supposed to be at this time. If in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, my message reminds you that you are a gift, I have done my job.

As always, I welcome your feedback. Would you like to connect? You can reach me via email or phone, leave a comment right here on the site, or click the contact tab at the bottom of the screen if you are reading this post on the website.

Until next time,

Meredith

The Power of Affirmations

bigstock-Stress-Management-in-word-coll-38840914I used to smoke cigarettes in my twenties.  Sometimes people would tell me that I didn’t look like a smoker (hmmm what does a smoker look like?) and they would ask me why I smoked.  I told them that I was rebelling from my childhood and that I would stop smoking, as soon as I became pregnant, believing that it would be entirely easy for me to do so.  As soon as I found out I was pregnant, which luckily was in the first few weeks of my pregnancy, I quit smoking (too bad it didn’t happen before I became pregnant!).  I never desired a cigarette again.  Who quits smoking without ever desiring to smoke again?  Only a person that had unknowingly used the power of an affirmation for over a decade and came to believe, without a shadow of a doubt, that they would accomplish that task, no problem.   This also showed me that whatever we believe and say, in our heads or out loud, is really an affirmation.

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Dreaming the Dream

bigstock-Success-Freedom-Woman-near-the-30640106At this time, each year, we have the privilege of experiencing a moment of time, in which we think about what the New Year might hold for each of us.  We can dream of making an aspect or many aspects of our lives better or we can dream about continuing to be overcome by the joy that we are currently experiencing.   Dreaming the dream is, in itself, so incredible…. and whatever we can dream for ourselves really is possible for ourselves, otherwise we wouldn’t dream it.

When I think back to the dreams I had last January, I remember wanting my book published and in my hands by my 41st birthday even though I had no idea how to publish a book – it arrived two days after my birthday.  I remember wanting to have sold all 1000 copies of my book within a year of receiving them because if I could sell that many books, I would feel as though far more families were being helped than I was able to help without the book – I accomplished that goal within 9 months of receiving my book.  I remember wanting my girls to become the happiest they had ever been at school – that dream, too, was accomplished.  In fact, when my husband asked my eldest what her greatest accomplishment was last year, she said it was attending her new school and finding it to be all that she had visualized!  There were even more dreams that were realized by our family last year but you get the idea.

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