Far too large of a percentage of parents report not enjoying the job of parenting. It is very difficult to find pleasure in parenting when our focus is on controlling our child and forcing them to obey the rules all the time. When we are rigid and tense, our children feel unloved and become loaded with self-blame. Their need to be accepted as they are goes unmet. When our children live under the threat of criticism or punishment, their need to feel safe is not met. When we open ourselves up to the possibilities of our relationship, trust our child and talk with our child not at them, our parenting experience blooms. Cooperation from our child is fool proof and everyone’s needs are met.